Relationship Advice for Men - 10 Ways to Seduce A Woman

Tips for men looking for ways to succeed with women


Enlarge ImageI have written this article by request but want to begin by saying that I in no way encourage men to treat women like objects. Men, this is a guide to help you win over a woman that you have a genuine interest in. If you are just looking for a one night stand then this article probably won't help you much. Lesson one, satisfaction comes with a sincere relationship and learning each others likes and dislikes. That being said, I hope you find something useful here that will help you give the woman of your dreams a reason to look your way.


Be sincere. Compliment her on something you truly admire. Hollow compliments can often be sensed. A compliment that she knows you mean will have much more impact. This doesn't mean you can throw out a compliment and then get naked, but it is a good first step. The compliment should NOT be 'you have great knockers.' Go for the eyes, hair, intelligence, sense of humor, something along those lines. On the other hand, too many compliments can come off sounding insincere. One or two sincere compliments are best.


Listen to her. She will give you clues about what she likes. At some later time, you can show that you remember what she has said and it makes a difference to you. This will earn you big points.


Be real. Don't exaggerate to make yourself sound better. Don't tell her lies just because you think it will help. These things have a way of turning around and biting you.


Don't offer advice unless asked. It could come off sounding like you are telling her what to do. Just listen and be supportive.


Do not talk about sex unless she brings it up. This one is pretty self explanatory.


Don't act desperate. Just let things flow naturally. Desperation is an unappealing quality in either sex. Playing a little hard to get can actually be appealing.


Avoid talking about yourself too much. Let her talk and if she wants to know, she will ask. An ongoing conversation about how big your muscles are or how fast your car is will not score many points. Bragging about how well endowed you are is a big no-no too. On the other hand, silence doesn't work either. Look around and find something to talk about. Preferably about her.


Avoid letting your eyes wonder to other women when you are with her. Talking about other women or your ex are both no-no's too. If you are out with her, let her know you like being with her by respecting her feelings and keeping your eyes and mind on her.


Treat her with respect. Don't call her chick, broad, dude or any other name unless you have been together for a while and you come up with pet names for each other. Respect is crucial and a good woman will not be interested in sex with you until she knows you respect her. If a one night stand is what you have in mind, then don't lead her into believing you want a relationship with her. Playing with her feelings is cruel and something no one should do to anyone.


Don't make her feel like because you have spent money on her, she should sleep with you. Making her feel this way will generally have the opposite affect. All you have bought is her time and the opportunity to prove to her that you are worth a second look. The rest is up to you.

Relationship Advice: Use these 3 Simple Tips to Screw Up Your Relationship

Tired of that great healthy relationship you are enjoying? Looking to screw it up royally? Then by all means try these tips


By all accounts the divorce rate in America has been on the decline. According to USA Today, it is now at its lowest level since 1970. Certainly this is a cause for celebration but it does not negate the fact that The United States still leads the rest of the world in that department or that one out of every two marriages will end in divorce.

There are a myriad of reasons as to why many relationships end badly. Sometimes in spite of the best efforts of both parties it still does not work. But more often than not many a couple has made a concerted effort (consciously or unconsciously) to sabotage their relationship. While there are a number of ways to throw a monkey wrench into the proceedings, the following must be at the top of any list when it comes to breaking up.

1. Communication Barrier

This is one of the main reasons relationship coaches remain in business. Many couples don't talk. If they do talk at it all it's usually past each other or turns it an argument. Lack of communication also is to a certain degree a lack of trust. You don't believe you can share more of yourself. Whether it's fear of rejection or just not believing they will be understood, the lack of trust can easily turn into not sharing anything at all.

The added side affect is that it has a tendency to put the other person on the defensive. They believe now they have done something wrong and since you are not giving them any indication one way or the other, the tension grows.

2. Money

We've seen many shows where a couple arguing over money has been played for laughs but in the real world it's no joke. A survey by Redbook and Smart Money magazines shows over seventy percent of people in a relationship talk to their partners at least once a week about money. It is so easy with soaring prices across the economic board for a discussion about basic household finances to get heated. Taking care of the family and home should be a gimme but even in that situation two people are bound to have a different perspective.

This is true even if you don't have money troubles. One partner might not feel it's a big deal since they have money to burn. That can cause some resentment particularly if one of you has been the primary breadwinner. No one can (or should) get their way all the time in any healthy relationship but there has to be boundaries. By all means make sure you and your partner do not work out a clear understanding or honor any financial decision you may reach.

3. Player, Player

This should go without saying. So why doesn't it? In a recent study conducted by Infidelity Facts, 57% of men and 53% women surveyed admit to cheating on their partner regardless of whether it is dating or marriage. Excuses can range from they are stuck in a loveless relationship and the new person makes them feel alive again to the thrill of sneaking around and doing something a bit reckless.

Whatever the excuse, introducing a third person into the picture means in essence the current relationship is over. "I love my spouse but…" is not going to cut it. Any chance to work out whatever problems you may be experiencing in your relationship will disappear once you get entangled with another person.

There is no quick fix or magic cure when it comes to relationships. It's hard work day by day, hour by hour. Even couples that have been together awhile and think they have the problems solved are shocked when life turns their relationship upside down. However if you want your relationship to end badly feel free to use any or all of the techniques above. They are guaranteed to do the trick.

Building Relationships, Commitment and Love - A is for...

An alphabetical guideline for building satisfying relationships, commitment, friendship, and love. We discuss interactions with those significant others in your life including that special person, whether or not you are already together. While we focus on the positive, we don't ignore the mistakes that are so easy to make but hard to repair. This article introduces the series and focuses on attitude, affection, and acknowledgment.



We all want to succeed in our interpersonal relationships, whether with family, coworkers, friends, or that special someone. Why is it sometimes so difficult? Isn't there a secret that will help you succeed, a checklist of things to do, and just as important things not to do to help achieve the relationships that you want, that you need?

We can't offer you a magic list, but we truly believe that our suggestions will help you succeed where you may have failed in the past. Please remember that despite any appearances to the contrary, other people are looking for the same relationship success that you are. To some extent our suggestions are common sense. You may say to yourself, why didn't I think of that. You may also say to yourself that's what I tried in the past and it didn't work. Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day. Just like you can't lose in one week the excessive weight that you gained over the decades by poor eating habits, you can't repair your relationship deficiencies overnight. But you can see progress immediately. This should give you the strength to move forward.

We have so many suggestions that we are going to provide them in virtually alphabetical order. Let's start with A.

A is for attitude. Attitude is one of the most important aspects of relationship building, whether dealing with coworkers... you know the list. If you go around thumping your chest like Tarzan or a gorilla, screaming for all to hear "I am the greatest" don't be surprised that people aren't standing in line to be with you. Frankly, if you were the greatest, don't you think that people would know without your having to tell them? Wouldn't your greatness somehow seep through the fog of interpersonal relationships? Yes, my friend, attitude is a big one. If you have a chip on your shoulder than don't be surprised that people somehow manage to avoid your presence.

So what should my attitude be? Should I be self-effacing? I think not. Why not let people know that you are glad to spend time with them? Let them feel the affection that you have for them. This leads us to another A term, affection.

A is for affection. I'm not talking about the hots. Or even the lukewarms. Let people know that you want to be with them. Let people know that their friendship or love (please don't confuse these all-important qualities) is important to you and well worth working for. We can all do with more friendliness in our life. Somehow a big smile can help grease the wheels of interpersonal relationships. Remember, your vis-à-vis is also looking for relationship success. She or he wants to be acknowledged. And that's our third and final term for this article.

A is for acknowledgment. Everybody needs it. When you have done something special you want people to know about it. Well guess what. This phenomenon works in both directions. As for most of our points, acknowledgment is also a couple's question. Don't be stingy about letting your partner know that he or she has done a fine job. Nobody wants to be taken for granted. People don't want their significant other to be absent for them... And this brings us to another series; namely pitfalls to avoid in building relationships, commitments, and love.

procrastination

Have you ever experienced the state of
procrastination? All of us have one time or another!
Procrastination is the number one killer of success.

It is the single most common state that keeps people
from taking action Knowing that there is an important
task at hand, you keep putting it off.

Have you ever had to start work on a project but kept
doing everything else that would delay you in getting
started? You cleaned your desk, got a drink of water,
checked your emails,walked around and finally said, ''I
think I will do it tomorrow!''

Has there been another time when you felt totally
motivated in getting started on a project? A time when
you just sat down and got it done immediately?

I believe we are aware that this situation rarely
happens, never happening in times when we need to get
something done.

We Create our States of Motivation and Procrastination

We have to understand that we create entirely
different states using our physiology and internal
re-presentation. When we understand this, we will be
able to change, interrupt and change states whenever
we need to.

When you were procrastinating, you were using your
physiology in a particular way. Your breathing was
probably slow and shallow. Your muscles were droopy,
your eyes were looking down and your facial muscles
were probably flaccid.

What about your internal re-presentation? You were
probably seeing pictures of yourself having a tough
time, being overwhelmed and getting frustrated. You
were probably saying to yourself in the most weary and
bored tone of life, "Must I do this now? Can I do it
later?"

How do we create Motivation?

A question we have to ask ourselves, when we are in a
motivated state, taking action and accomplishing our
tasks, how did we create that?

Our physiology was probably different. We were sitting
differently, breathing differently and moving
differently. We were probably re-presenting the task
very differently in our mind.

We were seeing ourselves getting results, having fun
and doing things effortlessly. We were probably
saying, "do it now!" "Let''s get it done!" in a more
excited, higher pitched tone of voice.

Remember, our states are hardly managed consciously.
We do not consciously shift our physiology nor do we
control our internal re-presentations with the
intention of controlling our states.

Instead, our minds are allowed to run on autopilot
causing us to lose control of our own states, ensuing
in mediocre results that we are not to pleased about.

Now that we are aware that states of motivation and
procrastination are entirely created by us, the
responsibility is on us to learn and take charge of
our physiology and internal representation,
propelling us to attain the greater results we desire.

To Your Success,


DO ALL THE GOOD YOU CAN, IN ALL THE WAYS YOU CAN , TO ALL THE PEOPLE
YOU CAN, AS LONG AS EVER YOU CAN ....COZ YOUR GOOD WORKS WILL SPEAK FOR
YOU IN THE DAY OF TROUBLE.

The Art Of Change

Reframing - The Art Of Changing Meaning

The process of turning a negative experience into a
positive one is
called reframing.

The two ways in which you can do this is Content
Reframing and
Context Reframing.

Content Reframing

Content Reframing is the process of changing a
negative experience
into a positive one by changing the meaning of the
experience.
Remember, every event has multiple meanings. The
meaning we choose
to focus on is what becomes real for us.

The best way to do a content reframe is to ask the
question, ''What
else can this mean?'' ''How can this benefit or empower
me instead of
depressing me?''

For example, if the recession hit when you were about
to start your
business, you could content reframe it by saying,
''Good! This means
that business costs, like rental and salaries, will be
lower and
allow us to break even faster''.

Or you could say, ''Good! This means prospective
clients will be
more open to listening to suppliers who offer better
value for
money.'' There are multiple reasons why starting a
business in a
recession will be a positive experience!

What if someone told you, ''My son does not stop
talking'' You could
reframe this negative comment by saying ''Good that
means he must be
full of ideas'', or , ''This means he must be very
intelligent.''

If the person you love leaves you for someone else,
reframe the
loss by saying, ''Good. This means that I can find
someone who truly
loves me'' or ''this means I can find someone who is
more caring,
beautiful and loyal.''

Context Reframing
Another way to reframe an experience is to do a
context reframe. A context reframe is the process of changing a negative
experience into a positive one by changing the context from which it is perceived.
Have you ever had a negative experience only to look
back at it five years later and say, ''That was a blessing in
disguise?'' In a different context (i.e. the future), the meaning of
that experience changed from bad to good.

In doing a context reframe, you must ask the question,
''in a different time or place, how would the meaning be beneficial?''
You see, everything that seems bad now, when put into a different time or place, could appear beneficial.
Going back to the first example of starting a business
in a recession, you could use a context reframe by saying,
''When the economy picks up, the company will be positioned to do
very well as it has been tested & strengthened by the recession''.
You could do a context reframe on the boy who talks
all the time by saying, ''When he grows up, he will make a good public
speaker'' (context of time). Or you could also say, ''The fact that he talks
all the time will certainly earn him a place on the school debating
team (context of place). Are you getting the hang of it?
How we represent or (frame) our experiences determine
our response
and the outcomes we achieve. Therefore we must learn
to constantly
frame experiences in ways that empower ourselves and
the people around us.
When we change the way we represent (frame) something,
we totally
change the meaning and the emotions associated with
that
experience. As a result, we change the decisions we
make and the
actions we take.

You must learn how to create resourceful meanings out
of every
experience. Successful leaders and entrepreneurs do
this to empower
themselves and others to reach their goals.

Morals in Life

Are you aware of the headlines in the newspapers. Do you find it fascinating because of the gossip and the excitement. Famous teenagers drug addicts , some of them so thin ,but no one see that there is something wrong with that picture, no one see the cry for help behind the money or the nasty attitudes , they just see people that is looking for publicity. Marriages in Hollywood nothing , you can marry today divorce in minutes, it was for fun or it was a sudden moment of madness.

No one realize that our morals are flushed down the toilets , because famous people are doing it, it must be the in thing besides I am a nobody so who am I to pass judgement. That is the biggest mistake that we make in life. Marriages used to be sacred between a wife and her husband who made a commitment infront of God and to one another. Now however there is nothing wrong , with keeping someone on the side and stay married.What is happening to all the things that was sacred to us. When you get pregnant it is easy for some people , either addoption or abortion , why would we kill another human being , that is helpless who had no choice in the matter when conceived, there are so many women who would give anything to have a baby like that, hold them love them.

Women used to be treated with respect now, they are being treated as tramps .Why we ask? . Where do men get ideas like that, oh yes it is in the magazines, the breast of women hanging out, it almost touches the floor. The clothing only enough material to cover the most important areas , and let''s not forget the newest trend , no more wearing panties at all. That is part of the problem ,because now women are labeled easy and they can get rape ,worser even babies , in South-Africa. Why don''t we as women speak out and say enough is enough, we are not all the same.


Let''s not forget the silent cries of those who told that when they are abused molested, by friends ,family members even parents ,what is happening the world is becoming one sick place to live in.Why are we so busy that we can not notice things like that do something about it. But no it is not our problem, we have our own so let''s look the other way, they can solve the problems.

Television, sex...sex...sex need I say more , where are the shows with morals, who helped the normal guy like me on the street, make me believe that anything is possible. The shows that made you laugh , when you need it , give you inspiration ,where characters face the problems that you have, but find a way of solving it, and you think hey that was me. Now instead people are portrayed as oversex animals , with bush manners, give each other the eye and have sex, hey they teach us to forget about illnesses such as Aids or any diseases that can be transmitted trough sex.

Morals are we so blinded by everything that glitters and includes a lot of money, that even a monkey look beautiful when we know , that it is ugly as hell. Some of us still care , but the majority does not, do you see a future because I don''t . I can only see a future where everything is wrong becames right and you know what, when you do not agree you will be the odd one out, and be stoned for it.

INTELLIGENCE AND WISDOM ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS

INTELLIGENCE IS A WONDERFUL QUALITY TO HAVE. HOWEVER, IF I HAD TO CHOOSE BETWEEN INTELLIGENCE & WISDOM, I’D SAY THAT WISDOM IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN INTELLIGENCE IN OUR LIFE JOURNEY OF CREATING JOY AND ABUNDANCE. THERE ARE MANY HIGHLY INTELLIGENT PEOPLE WHO FAIL TO USE THEIR INTELLIGENCE TO THEIR BEST ADVANTAGE. DO YOU KNOW THAT THERE ARE ALSO MANY EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT PEOPLE WHO LIVE VERY UNHAPPY LIVES???

WISDOM IS A QUALITY THAT YOU CANNOT ACCURATELY MEASURE. IT’S INVISIBLE. IT INCLUDES MANY ASPECTS OF LIFE SUCH AS PERSPECTIVE, SPONTANEITY, CREATIVITY, AND SOCIAL SKILLS. WISDOM IS YOUR SENSE OF KNOWING, AN INTUITIVE FEELING. WISDOM IS SEEING SOMETHING IN A NONHABITUAL MANNER. IT’S SEEING AN OLD PROBLEM IN A TOTALLY NEW, FRESH WAY. WISDOM HELPS US DISCOVER AND TRUST OURSELVES MORE. IT ALSO HELPS US TO FREE OURSELVES FROM OUR FIXED AND HABITUAL PATTERNS OF THINKING AND PROBLEM SOLVING.
IN A NUTSHELL, WISDOM IS THE ABILITY TO SEE AN ANSWER WITHOUT HAVING TO THINK OF AN ANSWER. WISDOM DOES EXIST OUTSIDE OF OUR THINKING MIND. WISDOM HELPS US SEE THINGS MORE CKEARLY THAN OUR THINKING MIND AND UNLIKE THE THINKING MIND, WISDOM CONTAINS NO WORRY.

HERE’S A STORY THAT DEMONSTRATES WISDOM. IT IS ABOUT A GIANT TRUCK THAT GETS STUCK UNDER AN OVERPASS. THE TRUCK WAS TOO TALL AND TOO BIG FOR THE AVAILABLE CLEARANCE. THE POLICE THEN CALLED OUT THE BEST, THE BRIGHTEST AND THE MOST EXPENSIE ENGINEERS IN THE CITY TO TRY TO FIGURE OUT WHAT TO SHOULD BE DONE. THEY DISCUSS THE ISSUE AMONG THEMSELVES. THEY RACKED THEIR BRAINS FOR HOURS. BUT STILL THEY SIMPLY COULDN’T FIGURE OUT HOW TO REMOVE THAT GIANT TRUCK WITHOUT DAMAGING THE FREEWAY ABOVE. IT ALL SEEMED SO COMPLICATED. THEN A SMALL BOY, ABOUT SEVEN YEARS OLD, WALKED UP TO THE POLICEMEN AND TUGGED ON ONE OF THEIR PANTS LEGS. EXCUSE ME SIR, THE LITTLE BOY SAID IN A RESPECTFUL TONE. WHY DON’T YOU JUST LET THE AIR OF THE TIRES??? OUT OF THE MOUTH OF A 7 YEARS OLD BOY, THE PROBLEM WAS SOLVED.

THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE MADE THE MOST MONEY, OR WHO HAVE BEEN THE MOST SUCCESSFUL IN THEIR CAREERS, ARE ESSENTIALLY NOT ALWAYS THE MOST INTELLIGENT OR THE MOST HIGHLY EDUCATED. THERE ARE PLENTY OF HARVARD GRADUATES WHO HAVE A VERY DIFFICULT TIME MAKING SIGNIFICANT MONEY, DESPITE THEIR INCREDIBLE EDUCATION. USUALLY THE PEOPLE WHO MAKE THE MOST MONEY AND WHO HAVE THE MOST FUN MAKING ALL THE MONEY ARE HIGHLY CREATIVE, HIGHLY MOTIVATED, HAVE GREAT INTUITION, SOLID GUT REACTIOINS AND INSTINCT AND THE ABILITY TO SPOT OPPORTUNITIES. ALL THESE QUALITIES STEM NOT SO MUCH FROM INTELLIGENCE BUT FROM WISDOM. THIS IS NOT AN ARGUMENT AGAINST FORMAL EDUCTION, OR AGAINST STANDARD INTELLIGENCE. YET IT’S IMPORTANT TO KNOW THAT WE DON’T NEED TO USE ANY LACK OF FORMAL EDUCATION AS SMMUNITION AGAINST OURSELVES. EDUCATION IS IMPORTANT AND HELPFUL. BUT NEVER LET ANYONE CONVINCE YOU THAT IF YOU AREN’T FORMALLY EDUCATED, THAT YOU ARE DOOMED TO BE A FAILURE – BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT.

ONE OF THE BEST WAY TO ACCESS OUR OWN WISDOM IS TO SIMPLY BELIEVE THAT IS DOES EXIST AND TO TOTALLY TRUST IN IT. ALWAYS KEEP A CLEAR KNOWING THAT A DEEPER, MORE INTELLIGENT TYPE OF THINKING – OUR WISDOM – IS ALWAYS AVAILABLE.