Some long distance couples find this to be the best of both worlds. You can live your life without constant attention to the needs of a partner. Yet, you have a person with whom you connect periodically to get a regular dose of romance and fun.
After a while, this can be a double-edged sword, however.
Many couples in long distance relationships find it so much fun and, in a way, so low-impact on their day-to-day lives, that after a while they become convinced that this relationship is obviously “the one.” And sometimes it is. But it’s hard to judge that from a distance.
Perhaps no long distance relationship advice is more important than to be careful. Do not overestimate a long distance relationship’s potential to translate into a regular relationship where you live in the same town, same home, and are headed towards long-term commitment.
The long distance relationship is an easy place to be on best behavior. Anyone can be accommodating, flexible, and attentive for a long weekend. This says little, in most cases, about how accommodating, flexible and attentive each party will be if you see each other every day, much less live in the same home.
In a nutshell, always remember: a long distance romance is NOT real life. It can be a wonderful little bubble that floats through real life. Party on in that bubble. Live it up.
Real life happens when you step outside that bubble to incorporate both your habits, idiosyncrasies, faults, families, jobs. Life becomes very different from what it was inside that bubble. Make changes to your life with caution
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Friday, January 16, 2009
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Sounds like you have had a bad experience. I agree with a some of what you say, but I know its possible to have a long distance relationship convert to being a 'local' one perfectly (I'm still with my LDR partner of 2 years... now living together). The honeymoon effect can be fake-ish... but over time, even at a distance, I truly beleive the individual (and their character or lack thereof) will become clear. Real life happens, even at a distance.
www.coupledtogether.com/blog has good LDR advice.
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